Monthly Archives: October 2012

Durga Puja – Days of Festivity

October is a special month for me, first because it is my birthday month and second because it is the month of festivals. Almost every year, festivals like Durga Puja, Laxmi Puja, Dusshera, Navratri, Eid, Kati Bihu and many more, unknown to me, fall on October and owing to this list, I declare the month of October as the month of festivals. May be I should include November as it beholds Diwali; however I am being bias to October, it being my favorite month. Also October green signals the festivity mood amidst people’s heart. Durga Puja usually falls on October (except on the rare years).  Durga Puja is a festival majorly celebrated by Bengalis but being born and brought up amidst a neighborhood surrounded by Bengalis and Biharis, I celebrate Durga Puja as joyously as I do Bihu; at times even more.

Stepping few years behind in my memory, I can measure the difference of excitement of those days from today. Those were the years, when we used to get full week holiday for Durga Puja. I still remember, since the evening of Sasti (6th day) when Goddess Durga was brought to the Pandals from the artist’s place, a different sort of blood seems to run in our blood. Talking only about myself, I used to be extremely happy, singing songs become my favorite pastime for the days and dancing is always on my move. New puja dress, mouthwatering jalebis and samosas, the beats of dhol, heavenly khichdi (given as prasad) and most importantly holidays – what more do you need to be happy?

Today – things are little different. Though I start off October month with a wide smile, it gets over by 10th of the month. Living miles away from home and working in a corporate world in South India, I do not get luxury Durga Puja holidays. Actually I do not get any for Durga Puja holiday; we get a day off on Dusshera, the Dashami of Durga Puja. Other two days, sitting in front of the system I just recollect the memories of old days. I do wear new dress but I miss the mood of festivity in the air, the taste of Puja Khichdi, hot jalebis and the beating of dhol. I miss every bit of my childhood Durga Puja days. Sometimes, I am lucky enough and one of the days falls on weekends. I get a chance to visit the Durga Puja pandals organized by the Bengali and other communities here.  Still my heart is not satisfied…but at least, I am content.

This year, things are even more difficult. For the first time I am alone in Durga Puja, no holidays and no company to visit Puja pandals. I miss every bit of Durga Puja festivity. The worst part is observing my friends celebrating Durga Puja grandly with families and friends. They are updating it fast on FB and along with each update my heart goes jealous and low. But days are not over, nor are years. I still have years to enjoy the festivity of Durga Puja. Maa Durga will come every year to fill our hearts with joy and I guess I needed to experience this year, to realize my fondness for this festival. Besides, there are two more days to go. May be there are secret happiness yet to be revealed.

Till I wait for my secret festive revelation, wishing everyone a very Happy Durga Puja!

Single, Committed or It’s Complicated

123Single, Committed or its Complicated is the trend of today’s so called social networking world. Everyone (excluding the not so interested people), is so very interested in knowing about the relationship status of other people. He can be your first crush, the most popular guy in the school, the neighborhood hunk, the new hero in the office or, your not so good looking but smart boss. Monitoring ‘the his’ relationship status in Facebook becomes so important. And for guys, knowing the status for every girl within friends list or beyond it, is important. But why is it so? Are you going to marry the him or the her? Absolutely no (come on the person is not marriage material types ;)) So what is that person – a relationship measuring scale? Not sure. Why do we check across the status even though we know most of us, put it just for the sake of putting it.

Being Single – I am genuinely single. I am not single but I want my colleagues to believe I am single. I have too many relatives in Facebook to disclose my relationship status. My partner is not good looking enough to disclose. Why do I need to disclose I am committed? I am married but why do the other beautiful people around need to know this. I am confused with whom I am actually committed. Being Single sounds cool ……. OMG the list goes on and on and on!

Being Committed – I recently coupled with one and I am very happy. I want the world to know about my good looking partner. My partner wants me to say so. I want my EX to feel J. I want to avoid the 24*7 ready to flirt types. All my friends are committed, how can I be single. Good looking people don’t look good being single and so do me. Being Committed sounds good for me …. the list is smaller than the previous one but still long.

It’s Complicated – Last night we fought. I think I love the person but still not sure. Gosh…my partner still flirts with other people. I want my partner to know that I am not committed, so better don’t take me for granted. I am committed but our parents not gonna agree. We are giving it a second thought. Being Complicated is a trend for the day… the list is the smallest but interesting.

Forget about being engaged or married because, we are concerned only about these three – Single, Committed and Its Complicated. After knowing almost all the answers to the so called relationship status tag, I think it’s not worth it spending time looking at someone’s relationship status. But it is still fun to look at it. Click the ‘like’ icon (though we don’t like it always, at least hate it most of the times) and comment with flowery words, philosophical dialogues or just some smileys. Committed – congrats (get lost), so happy for you two (happy – my foot!), good to see you together (you are the most odd couples I have seen ever) etc. Being Single after Committed – This is the time when the life time single person too gets ready to blabber philosophically. Oh! What happened, Its ok, It happens…just move on, Are you serious? What went wrong, God has better plans for you and so on. Complicated – you guys are always complicated, lol (coz’ I have no idea what to say), I told you not to fall in love with a wink (just to lighten the taunt) and bla bla and bla…. While commenting on relationship status, we also explore all the smileys available 🙂 , 😉 , 🙁 , 😛 , 😀 ……..I guess smileys express better than words.

So, here was a small glance at the Facebook world. If we move on this way, the post will never get over and thoughts will give bulging out but i have to stop. And anyways, it’s time to go, time for Facebook digging 😛 (ignore my smiley, so used to today’s social networking world and smiley lifestyle)…. Have fun!